Founder & CEO, KidsXpress
Roles in life and work:
I am the proud Founder & CEO of KidsXpress, a specialist children’s mental health charity supporting 4 to 14 year old’s who’ve been impacted by Adverse Childhood Experiences such as abuse, neglect, family violence and bereavement. A world first, our evidence-based therapy program uniquely combines the healing powers of art, music, drama and play into the therapeutic process, while our Training & Education Services help build the capacity of caregivers to better recognise and respond to children impacted by trauma. This holistic model ensures no vulnerable child is left unsupported as we work towards creating a future all children deserve.
I am super organised; I love rituals and routine. They keep me grounded and focussed on what matters. But I work at keeping it that way too. Being organised also allows me the freedom to enjoy the funny, spontaneous, adventurous opportunities too. I think because I’m not bogged down trying to deal with the struggle of mundane tasks, life just feels better.
How do you separate work and personal time
Hmmm … not sure I do! I learnt separating life into two compartments created cracks where I’d often lose my identity and authenticity. I am working on myself at the moment and determined that regardless of circumstance, environment or situation, I show up consistently as Margo, not what/who/how someone else wants me to be. I’ll be honest, it can be very difficult to live up to the persona of a charity chick sometimes. It’s also not healthy for my own emotional and mental state to constantly be open to hearing trauma. This is particularly difficult in some social settings, so I have a rule; three stories and I’m out! I do find myself in need of trivial entertainment at times and I love occasionally going off grid for a good dose of giggles and adventures with friends.
What does your support network look like?
Tight! I have my core 5-6 people who I know have my back and if the call goes out, will be there for me no matter what. I do have others I seek guidance from, for work mainly, but my main support crew know who they are and what we mean and do for each other. I have an incredible therapist who I regard as one of the most skilled therapists out there. I started seeing her professionally because of the work I do. In the past, as a therapist myself I found I could scoot around most therapeutic techniques, but not so with Megan. She sees me and I am a better person because of it.
What kind of conversations do you have with your inner voice?
Sometimes helpful, sometimes loud or quiet and sometimes darn right annoying! It’s a constant job to keep my inner critic under control, she loves to come out just before I get up on stage or go on a date! I do journal daily as a way of connecting to and tuning into my intuition. It is conversation with self that I value highly and which has set me on the right path every time.
Do you have any time saving tips for the One P community?
That we all have enough time when we know what is truly important to us. Stop trying to control the world so that nothing bad ever happens. Life is going to deliver many high and lows – it’s called living. Oh and get off the “I’m so busy” bandwagon! It feels like we are always competing to see who is busiest. Try saying, just once “Hmmm, I’m not really feeling busy” and see what reaction you get. Sure you may get a few “oh, is business not good?” questions, but after a few of these reactions you’ll start to feel like you’ve just gotten off the treadmill. And trust me, it feels so good after a wee while you’ll believe it and then it will be reality
A little more about KidsXpress
KidsXpress is a charity you wish didn’t need to exist.
Many of the children who are referred to KidsXpress believe life isn’t worth living or that it’s too hard to cope with alone. A specialist trauma-focused mental health organisation, KidsXpress was established in 2005 to support children aged 4-14yrs who’ve been impacted by Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) such as sexual abuse, neglect, violence, bereavement and illness.
Today, KidsXpress is leading the way in early-intervention mental health support through the delivery of Expressive Therapy and Trauma-Informed Education Services for children and their caregivers.